Tools and Skills for Life

Anger Management Tools

2011-05-22T07:42:00.000-07:00

Here are some tools and skills to help manage anger:

Relaxation Techniques

• Deep Breathing
• Counting to 10
• Imagery or meditation

Rational Thinking and Self-Talk

• “Just stay cool, getting angry won’t help”
• “I am in control, I can walk away instead of losing it”
• Avoid being “demanding”
• Think in terms of “cooperation” rather than “winning”
• Avoid rigid thinking
• Challenge your “shoulds” and “musts”
• Increase insight into what battles are worth fighting; also be aware of the price of winning/losing.

Behavioral Techniques

• Talk about it
• Physical Activity (esp. cardio-vascular exercise)
• Walk away
• Practice assertiveness
• Thought stopping techniques
• Distraction techniques
• Avoid labeling
• Rehearse healthy “self-talk” for times you are likely to become angry
• Lower your voice

Tips in Diffusing Anger in Others

Most important keep yourself safe……if this is physical get to a safe place!!!!!

1. Stay calm
2. Keep voice low and even ( stop escalation)
3. If physically safe, sit down to model you are not a threat
4. Being non-defensive
5. Listen to what is being said
6. Focus on the issue not the other person’s behaviors
7. Be empathetic
8. Avoid advice giving
9. Avoid telling the other person how they feel or how to feel
10. Admit when you are wrong, but do not apologize when not responsible

At Professional Toolbox Consultants, we can help provide you with the tools and skills you need to manage your anger. Give us a call at (954) 741-1099

New Year New You

2010-12-29T13:18:00.000-08:00

The New Year is a time when people reflect on the year gone by, but more importantly it is a time when many people make promises to themselves to live their lives in a more effective manner. The most common New Years Resolutions revolve around being healthier, improving financial situation and/or strengthening family, work and social relationships. Surveys indicate that the majority of people who make new years resolutions are confident that they are going to be able to keep them. However further research indicates that less than 20% of these people actually achieve their goal. The following are some tips you can use that greatly enhance your ability to accomplish whatever you set out to do.

• State your goal in behavioral terms (Instead of saying “I want to be healthier”, define what behaviors you plan to utilize to achieve this goal).

• Make sure that your goal is measurable

• Set goals that are realistic

• Focus on behaviors that you personally control.

• Make sure that the goal you set is for you, not somebody else.

• Tell others about your goals and utilize family and friends as support.

• Write your goals on a piece of paper where you can see it often.

• Monitor your progress. Reward yourself for any move in a positive direction.

Be open to trying new behaviors if some you are already using are not working.

• Focus on “progress not perfection”

Setting goals and achieving them, especially when they entail making lifestyle changes, is often frustrating. Seeking the guidance and coaching of a professional can often increase your chances of success by helping you identify and define goals more effectively and providing support and encouragement in helping you to stay on task. To discuss in more detail how you can make effective changes in your professional and personal life call counselors at PTC ( 954-741-1099).

Have a safe and happy New Year!!

Summer Health & Wellness

2010-07-24T08:38:00.000-07:00

Summertime usually conjures up images like relaxing at the beach, fun in the park, picnics, barbeques, and family vacations. Because of this, summer is a great time to think about taking more control of your health. Taking care of your body is a key element in making sure you are able to maximize peak performance in both your personal and professional lives.

The American heart Association identifies three major areas of health that most people need to be aware of. These areas are cholesterol levels, blood pressure and blood sugar levels. Small, inexpensive lifestyle changes often pay big dividends in allowing one to effectively manage these major health concerns.

General tips for improving your general health include:
Getting active: walking more and stretching are probably the easiest and most convenient was to increase your activity level.
Eating better: reduce salt and sugar intake, practice portion control, eat more fish, increase fruits and vegetables, avoid foods high in saturated fat and eat more whole grains.
Losing weight
Quitting smoking
Limiting alcohol intake
Practicing effective stress management.

A counselor can provide you with effective coaching in helping you begin to make healthy lifestyle changes and managing stress more effectively. You can reach Professional Toolbox Consultants counselors at 954-741-1099.

Effective Stress Management

2010-03-11T19:06:00.003-08:00

One of the primary keys to establishing and maintaining good health is effective stress management. Stress is a constant and integral part of life. However, poorly managed stress can lead to negative physical, emotional and/or psychological consequences.

Physically, unrelieved can have a severe impact on your immune system. Other physical ailments that are commonly associated with being “stressed out” include but are not limited to:
· stomach and digestive difficulties
· high blood pressure and other cardio vascular problems
· insomnia
· muscle/body aches

Difficulties managing stress is also associated with symptoms of depression and anxiety. These symptoms significantly diminish one’s ability to thrive either personally or professionally.

The good news is that effectively managing stress is not difficult to do. The key is to make a conscience effort each day to engage in activities that promote healthy living. Here are some tips for creating a healthy lifestyle:
· Establish and utilize a good support system
· Exercise on a regular basis (Find time every day to move more & stretch)
· Increase you intake of fruit and vegetables
· Decrease your consumption of foods containing high levels of fat, sugar and caffeine.
· Increase your daily intake of water
· Take time to journal your thoughts and feelings
· Avoid becoming overwhelmed by improving your assertiveness skills especially in regards to asking for help and learning how to respectfully say “No”.
· Improve your communication and other relationship building skills.
· Look for reasons to laugh and smile.

Effective stress management and healthy living is really about taking the time to take care of yourself. Avoid adding to your stress by working too hard to be healthy. Small behavior changes on a daily basis will lead to big benefits over time. If you need additional help with managing your stress call Professional Toolbox Consultants at (954) 741-1099.

Growing and Changing this New Year

2009-12-28T07:51:00.000-08:00

As an old year ends and a new year rolls in, this is a time when many people make New Year’s resolutions. Many people do not realize how important this age old tradition is in establishing and maintaining sound emotional well being. One important trait that all healthy living things share in common is that they continue to grow. Another word for growth is change. When we fail to take the opportunity to grow in either our personal or professional lives we are susceptible to feeling all kinds of emotional distress least of which is state of boredom or stagnation. So, use the New Year as a catalyst to identify an area of your life you would like to improve upon and put into action a plan to make growth promoting changes.

Here are some tips to help make your healthy intentions come to fruition:
**Make sure your goal is behavioral in nature.
**Be specific (how, when, where, how much, how often, etc.)
**Small change is better than no change
**Make sure that your goal is beneficial for you
**Remember that change is often difficult and uncomfortable.
**Have realistic expectations and be patient with yourself.
**Write your goal down.**Share your goal with family and friends
**Monitor your progress.
**Strive for progress not perfection.

Have a safe New Years from the counselors at PTC !!!!

Business Networking in South Florida

2009-11-28T09:51:00.000-08:00

Link and Lunch
Visit a free business networking group.

“Link and Lunch” is an informal business networking group, the goal is for individuals and companies to have a place to network without cost or committment.

Bring your business cards and brochures. Each person will be given 3 minutes to introduce to the group their business, product, and/or services (while there business materials are being given out to each networker).

This is a place to get referrals, leads, and promote your business.
In these economic times it is important to support each other to build and maintain or businesses.

Bring a bag lunch.

Date: Email- counseling123@aol.com for schedule
Time: 12:00pm – 1:15pm
Place: Wild & Sharp
Attorneys at Law
101 N. Pine Island Road, Suite 201
Plantation, FL 33324
Email us at the below addresses for additional info and RSVP

Feel free to invite guests, and RSVP is mandatory since seating is limited.

RSVP to counseling123@aol.com or nicole.kramer@counselingforgrowth.net

Founding members of “Link and Lunch”
http://www.mindbodyjuiceplus.com/ & http://www.counselingforgrowth.net/

For more information visit: http://www.linkandlunch.blogspot.com/

Preparing for the Holidays

2009-11-23T06:41:00.001-08:00

The Holiday season is rapidly approaching. Though, traditionally a time of joy and celebration, the holidays can also be a time of increased stress. All of us have limited resources especially in terms of time, money and our ability to manage emotional stress. Preparing for the holidays often means stretching these resources even when many feel that their resources are already being stretched to capacity. However, with a little planning and effort all of us can experience some holiday enjoyment without causing financial and/or emotional bankruptcy.

Here are some tips that you can use to help make holiday time less stressful.

Set Healthy Expectations:
* Do not expect perfection of yourself or others.
* Simplify family traditions that may be too expensive, time consuming or non conducive to your already hectic lifestyle.
* Avoid feeling compelled to attend every holiday event.
* Prioritize what is truly important in making the holidays special for you and your family.

Be fiscally responsible:
* Before you go shopping, decide how much you can afford to spend on gifts or other holiday expenses.
* Stick to your budget.
* Use cash as often as possible. Using credit cards often leads to spending more than you can afford and usually makes what you are buying more expensive due to interest and finance charges.
* Explore ways to express holiday cheer that do not cost lots of money.
* Look for ways to share expenses especially in regards to gift giving and event planning.
* Remember that you truly can not buy happiness, love or acceptance.

Alleviate family strain:
* Set Differences aside.
* Avoid using holiday gatherings as a time to resolve old and recent grievances.
* Accept family members for who they are, not who you wish them to be.
* Understand that not everyone experiences the holidays the same way. Be supportive to those who appear to be struggling.
* Remember that the only happiness you can truly control is your own.

The most important thing to remember is to be kind to yourself. Pace yourself, eat well get enough rest and let the true spirit of the holidays, Peace & Love guide you.

If you or someone is needing support during the holidays call PTC (954) 741-1099.

Positive Thinking

2009-10-30T10:07:00.000-07:00

OPTIMISM
“Man is disturbed not by things, but the views he takes of them”. This piece of ancient Greek wisdom is important to keep in mind during today’s trying times. Personal and global events may have significant impact our emotional state, however, the intensity and duration of this impact is greatly determined by the way we think about a particular event. Recent research has concluded that individuals who adopt an “optimistic” way of viewing the world and related events are happier and more successful than their “pessimistic” counterparts. Pessimists see primarily the negative or worst aspects of things and expect only bad or unpleasant things to happen. Pessimists tend to be problem focused. This often creates self fulfilling prophecies which produces the outcome they fear or worse. The optimist on the other hand is the person who expects the best possible outcome or looks for the most hopeful aspects of a situation. Optimists tend to be far better problem solvers because they tend to look for solutions and opportunities for success.Optimism should not be confused w/ being a “Polly Anna” or living in a state of denial during difficult times. Rather, it is the skill of altering thoughts that block happiness and sabotage an individual’s ability to cope with and move beyond difficult times with grace and dignity. Even in the most difficult of times there are individuals who achieve success. Having a personal outlook that promotes growth and well being enhances yo ur chances of personal and professional fulfillment in any time.

Written by: Jeffrey Jabick, LMHC (PTC)
Resource: Book- Learned Optimism by Martin Seligman, Ph.D.

Create Work/Life Balance

2009-10-21T06:43:00.000-07:00

Establishing an effective work/life balance is one of the most important keys to having a healthy and productive life. An inability to establish and maintain a healthy balance can lead to significant emotional and physical distress. One of the biggest barriers to creating this balance is that most people don’t know how to make the transition from work to home. However, with a little effort, planning and practice, this transition can become smooth and seamless. The following are some tips you can try to facilitate this transition:

*Improve time management and assertiveness skills

*Enhance relationships w/ co-workers and managers to improve teamwork. This will allow you to be more effective and efficient while at work.

*If possible, devote the final minutes of your day to less pressured tasks.

*Empty your mind of unfinished business by “putting pen to paper”. Then place what you have written in one of two places; a folder labeled “For Tomorrow” or the trash can.

*Embrace the commute home. Use the alone time to de-stress.

*When at home focus your attention on family and issues you enjoy.

*Pre-arrange w/ your family some “me time”.

Healthy work/life balance is not easy and requires practice. We at PTC have counselors that can provide you with further coaching and counseling to help manage the demands of work and home more effectively.

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2009-07-31T08:20:00.000-07:00

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Prevent Breast Cancer

2009-06-09T06:18:00.000-07:00

Thermography - also known as thermal imaging or digital infrared imaging, is the earliest breast screening tool available today and is over 97% accurate in the early detection of breast cancer. Thermography uses no compression, no radiation, and is designed to detect abnormal vascular growth in the breast tissue 8-10 years earlier than any other imaging method. An abnormal vascular growth is very foreign to the body, creating the heat and and inflammation that is detected with thermal imaging. Thermography is so sensitive, that it can detect the slightest change in your breast tissue in as little as 256 cancer cells. However, for a mammogram to detect breast cancer, over 4 BILLION cancer cells are needed. Mammography is detection once you have breast cancer; thermography is prevention, alerting you early enough to begin the process of reversing the new abnormal vascularity, with a nutritional program and hormone balancing, if needed. Breast cancer is highly dependent on imbalance hormones so be sure to get your hormones checked and balanced. Everyone should be made aware of this valuable screening tool so we can prevent this epidemic disease.

If you have questions or you are interested in early detection. Please call Thermography First, LLC.

Donna J. Tomey, C.C.T.
Thermography First, LLC
954-673-2221

Wellness Lecture In Plantation, Florida

2009-04-10T07:28:00.000-07:00

Stress Reduction, Nutrition & Wellness

On Thursday, May 14, 2009
You are invited to learn how to improve your health and wellness with education on stress reduction skills and whole food nutrition.

Speakers:
Jeffrey Jabick, Licensed Psychotherapist
Lisa Friedman, Licensed Psychotherapist
Theresa McIntosh, Acupuncture Physician

The wellness presentation is sponsored by Juice Plus+ (www.mindbodyjuiceplus.com).

Join Us:

Cost: Free

Place: Quality Inn

Quality Inn

Sawgrass Conference Center

1711 North University Drive

Plantation, FL 33322

Date: May 14, 2009, Thursday
Time: 6:15pm- 7:30pm

Seating is limited so please RSVP (networking is encouraged so bring your business cards):
Either by phone or email
(954) 741-1099 ext. 3
wellness@toolsnskills.com

Tips to Cope with the Recession

2009-03-13T17:14:00.000-07:00

Hearing about how bad the U.S. and world economies are is inevitable. We are constantly reminded of things like the poor housing market, diminishing retirement portfolios, rising unemployment and failing companies. Inflation is causing many to feel as if they are in a financial vice. To make matters worse, we are told that things are likely to get worse before they improve. No wonder that more and more of us are experiencing increased emotional unrest.
Feeling powerless over what is going on in the world intensifies our distress. But there are things we can do to minimize the impact of difficult financial times on our emotional and psychological well being.
First, make an effort to practice basic stress management techniques on a daily basis. These include but are not limited to: eating well, getting adequate sleep, exercising on a regular basis and finding an outlet to talk about your thoughts and feelings.
Secondly, despite your powerlessness over global economics, look for ways to gain control over your personal finances. It is recommended that one of the most important things you can do during uncertain economic times is to establish an accessible “emergency cash reserve”. This seems daunting to many, because so many of us live paycheck to paycheck, but you would be surprised with how a little effort, creativity and ingenuity can lead to some significant monthly and yearly savings.

Some recommended tips include:
1. Keep a log of daily, weekly and monthly expenditures and look for opportunities to cut out “non-essentials”.

2. Purchase generic brands at supermarket.

3. Utilize newspaper coupons

4. Contact utility companies, especially those regarding services like cable and phone services and inquire about cheaper plans.

5.When shopping, go with a list of exactly what you need and stick to that list. Avoid impulse buying.

6. Unplugging all electrical items when not in use can save hundreds of dollars/year.

7. Use cash whenever possible. Paying w/ credit cards often increases the cost of your purchases and encourages us to buy more than we need or can afford.

8. Pay bills on time and when possible on-line.

9. Be aware that many of us spend more when we are under increased stress. Look for healthier ways to deal w/ your feelings.

10. Do a house cleaning and look for unused items you can sell on line or at a tag sale.

11. When possible take advantage of any opportunities to increase household income streams.

Free Wellness Lecture (Fort Lauderdale, Florida)

2009-02-13T10:52:00.000-08:00

Stress Reduction, Nutrition & Wellness

On Thursday, March 12, 2009
You are invited to learn how to improve your health and wellness with education on stress reduction skills and whole food nutrition.

Speakers:
Jeffrey Jabick, Licensed Psychotherapist
Lisa Friedman, Licensed Psychotherapist
Theresa McIntosh, Acupuncture Physician

THE LENOX will be hosting this wellness lecture. The wellness presentation is sponsored by Juice Plus+ (www.mindbodyjuiceplus.com).

Join Us:

Cost: Free
Place: The Lenox
6700 W. Commercial Blvd.
Fort Lauderdale, FL 33319
Date: March 12, 2009, Thursday
Time: 7pm- 8:15pm

Seating is limited so please RSVP:
Either by phone or email
(954) 741-1099 ext. 3 Counseling123@aol.com

Parenting Tools: Kids and Drug/Alcohol Use

2009-01-20T13:25:00.000-08:00

It seems, that in today’s increasingly complex world, children appear to be “growing up” at an accelerated pace. At younger and younger ages, children and teens feel compelled to behave in ways they believe to be more “adult like”. Unfortunately, experimentation with drugs and alcohol is one of the more common symptoms of “pre-mature” adult behavior.

As with adults, but even more so with the still developing minds and bodies of children and teens, drug and alcohol use can cause significant harm. It important for parents, teachers, and counselors to have some understanding of potential warning signs and what to do should they suspect their child is engaging in drug/alcohol related activity.

Signs of Drug Use in Children and Teens:
Change of friends.
Be especially wary if your child begins to interact with older friends.
Known or suspected use of drugs by friends of your child.
Extreme changes in mood, moodiness, or increased irritability
Carelessness about personal appearance and grooming
Isolating from family members
Increased defensiveness
Decreased interest in favorite activities
Altered sleep or eating patterns
Diminished performance at school and truancy
Increased disciplinary problems
Troubles with the law (DUI’s, shoplifting, disorderly conduct)
Red or glossy eyes; constant running nose
Family history of alcohol and/or drug problems
Missing money, alcohol, or prescription drugs
Finding suspected drug paraphernalia ( i.e. pipes, butane lighters, rolling papers)

Awareness and maintaining an active and caring interest in your child’s well being is the most important aspect of minimizing child/teen drug problems. If you suspect that your child is using drugs or alcohol, it is most important that you address the issue as soon as possible.

Here are some ways to address this issue w/ a child:

Approach your child from a place of concern rather than anger
Inquire and ask questions but avoid the temptation to directly accuse
Be specific as to what you see, hear and smell that leads you to believe there may be a problem
Expect your child to be defensive; stay as cool and calm as you can
Set limits and use appropriate consequences for unhealthy or unacceptable behaviors
Continue to get education on substance abuse and parenting tips

If troubling behaviors and warning signs persist or worsen, seek professional help. Professional Toolbox Consultants are located in Plantation, Florida (954-741-1099).

New Years New You

2008-12-05T07:47:00.000-08:00

· State your goal in behavioral terms (Instead of saying “I want to be healthier”, define what behaviors you plan to utilize to achieve this goal).
· Make sure that your goal is measurable
· Set goals that are realistic
· Focus on behaviors that you personally control.
· Make sure that the goal you set is for you, not somebody else.
· Tell others about your goals and utilize family and friends as support.
· Write your goals on a piece of paper where you can see it often.
· Monitor your progress. Reward yourself for any move in a positive direction.

Be open to trying new behaviors if some you are already using are not working.
· Focus on “progress not perfection”

Setting goals and achieving them, especially when they entail making lifestyle changes, is often frustrating. Seeking the guidance and coaching of a professional can often increase your chances of success by helping you identify and define goals more effectively and providing support and encouragement in helping you to stay on task. To discuss in more detail how you can make effective changes in your professional and personal life call the the professionals at PTC (954) 741-1099.

Just a reminder PTC posted an entry on October 22, 2008 "Coping Tools for the Holidays" ...hope you check it out. Have a great holiday season. PTC

Mortgage Info & Referral

2008-11-23T13:50:00.001-08:00

Hi Everyone,

I just wanted to give everyone a great referral. I recently went through the tough task of getting a mortgage. Luckily, I had the most honest and patient mortgage broker. I just wanted to send out a big thank you to Scott (my mortgage broker) and Kelly (my loan processor). Thank you guys for your hard work, diligence and patience. And for the readers out there... if you are in need of their services the info is below:

Ace Mortgage Loan Corp.
10181 W. Sample Rd Ste 206
Coral Springs, FL 33065
Ph: 954.777.4774
Fx: 954.777.5115

Thank you, Lisa at PTC

Relaxation Tips

2008-11-19T16:23:00.000-08:00

We received an email from massagetherapycareers.com blog...they wanted to share their tips on relaxation to PTC readers. So check out the link below.

http://www.massagetherapycareers.com/blog/2008/100-illustrated-relaxation-exercises-for-your-mind-body-and-soul/

Billing Info for Therapists

2008-11-14T15:03:00.001-08:00

Hey there,
As promised we wanted to share tools, skills, and tips for therapists. I found a billing company that has real low cost and excellent customer service for insurance and regular billing. There website is http://directphysiciansbilling.com .

Lisa at PTC

Coping Tools for the Holidays

2008-10-22T12:06:00.000-07:00

Holiday time is traditionally perceived as a time of joy and festivity. For many however, the holidays bring about what is commonly referred to as the “Holiday Blues”. Holiday Blues can range from mild sadness and just feeling stressed to symptoms of severe anxiety and/or depression. For many, holiday time can magnify difficulties that have been present all year long but become intensified due to the pressures of trying to promote the holiday spirit. Family/relationship issues, grief and loss, financial strain, and time constraints are common sources of increased emotional distress. Unrealistic expectations and difficulties setting healthy boundaries increase the potential of feeling overwhelmed during the holiday season.

Here are some tips to help you manage the most common triggers of holiday distress:

Unrealistic Expectations:
* Don’t expect perfection of yourself or others. Driving yourself to exhaustion will not create a happy holiday for you or your loved ones.
* Simplify family traditions that may be too much work or that are not conducive to an already hectic lifestyle.
* Prioritize invitations and do not feel compelled to attend every holiday event.

Family Issues:
* Set differences aside
* Accept family members and friends as they are, not who you wish them to be.
* Avoid using holiday gatherings as a time to resolve old and recent grievances.
* Be supportive of others who may be feeling negatively. Remember they may be experiencing the same holiday stress that you are.

Financial Strain:
* Before you go shopping, decide how much you can afford to spend on gifts or other holiday expenses.
* Stick to your budget.
* Remember that you can not truly buy happiness, love or acceptance.
* Explore ways to express holiday cheer that do not cost lots of money.
* Find ways to share expenses with others especially in regards to gift giving and event planning.

The most important thing to remember during this time of year is to be true and good to yourself. This means setting boundaries with others and making time to care for yourself. Focus on making this holiday season as joyful as possible. If you don’t feel merry for whatever reason, share your feelings with loved ones and let them know what you need from them.

Clinical Supervision for MSW's and Mental Health Counselors

2008-08-08T09:53:00.000-07:00

PTC gets several emails a month re: psychotherapists and interns that want us to post tools and skills. Therefore we have decided to add posts that will provide tools and skills for psychotherapists and interns. If you are an intern in South Florida, PTC provides Qualified Clinical Supervision for MSW and Mental Health Counselor interns in Florida. We have added some links on the Resource section (see right side of blog) and toward the bottom of the blog there is now a section devoted to Resources for psychotherapists and interns.

Lisa Friedman, LCSW has been a clinical supervisor since 1999. Lisa is also a Qualified Clinical Supervisor in the State of Florida. She has experience working with issues such as, wellness, mental health, psychiatric disorders, dual diagnosis, homeless, HIV/AIDS, trauma, and eating disorders. The populations she has served include children, adolescents, adults and the elderly. She utilizes a consultation and toolbox (ecletic) approach to clinical supervision. Lisa typically sees masters level social workers and mental health interns individually or in small groups. Lisa provides exam preparation and coaching to assist MSW's in taking the ASWB clinical social work exam.

Parenting Tools: Expectations

2008-07-16T17:33:00.000-07:00

All parents have expectations of their children. Setting and communicating these expectations in a healthy manner goes a long way in helping children achieve their maximum potential.

There are two primary types of expectations that can be established for kids. The first type is behavioral. Behavioral expectations demonstrate character traits that parents would like to see in their children. These may include things like manners, ambition, perseverance, respect, and the ability to take responsibility.

The second type of expectations is achievements. Achievements are based on your child accomplishing specific objectives such as developing friendships, earning certain grades, or making a team.

It is important that that the expectations you set are realistic. Expectations that are set too high or do not match your child’s personality, strengths, age, or interests can lead to all kinds of negative stress for you and your child.

Here are some helpful tips you can utilize establish healthy expectations:
· Talk to your child often so you can understand his/her strengths, weaknesses, and interests.
· Make sure that you communicate your expectations clearly and specifically.
· Ensure that your child has the resources, education, and support needed to reach set standards.
· Make sure your child knows how they, not you, benefit from meeting certain expectations and goals.
· Emphasize unmet expectations as opportunities for learning and growth as opposed to being examples of personal failure.
· Remember that your actions speak louder than words.
· Avoid using “do as I say, not as I do” as a primary parenting philosophy.

Self Esteem Tool

2008-07-01T09:01:00.000-07:00

Self Esteem Box

Clients and the therapists I supervise always ask me for tips, tools and skills to build self esteem.

The building blocks of self esteem are developed while receiving praise and accolades for successes, as well as pride for self, all throughout child development. If anything got in the way of that developmental task…a person’s self esteem is possibly less full as one would like.

One of the tools that I use is a “Success Box”. This tool is for kids, teens, and adults.

As each individual creates and fills up their “success box” they have a tangible way to access their success…and this will assist someone in building upon each success... thus building a strong sense of self esteem.

Here’s how you create or help someone create a “Success box”:

Use a shoebox or a box that is the same size and decorate the box according to your personality. (My box may have suns, starts, greens, blues and purples, pictures of animals, and perhaps a collage of beach scenes). Everyone’s box is different.

As you begin the creation process, this is your “Success Box”. Start to fill the box up with letters/cards you have received praising you from others, note cards with your daily, weekly and yearly successes (any successes), awards, and your own note cards including positive thoughts about yourself.

Parents helping their kids with a “Success Box”: use fun note cards and write your child successes daily and/or as each success occurs and give it to your child to place in their box. Include praise from teachers, other parents, siblings and adults in your child’s life.

Now the box exists for when you having a low moment: Just open the box and review the contents when you need them. We build our self esteem all throughout our life…so you can continue adding to your box and reviewing the contents whenever necessary.

Have Fun!

Lisa

Tips to Improve Self Esteem

2008-06-08T18:32:00.000-07:00

Tips for improving self-esteem:

1.Use visualization to achieve your dreams and increase your self- esteem!

2. Develop and work at achieving your goals. If you do this, your confidence will increase and you will feel positive.

3. Be aware of and make a conscience effort to change negative/self sabotaging self-talk.

4. Identify and embrace your feelings; even those you do not like.

5. Be aware of how you compare yourself to others.

6. Clarify your values and make decisions that are in alignment with these values.

7. Identify your strengths. Focus on your strengths.

8. Make a point to learn something new everyday.

9. Make an effort to start your day on a positive note.

10. Make a list of accomplishments.

11. Learn to reframe perceived failures and don’t be afraid to “fail” in the future.

12. Exercise regularly, eat a healthy diet and generally take good care of yourself.

13. Cultivate a social life and associate with people who help promote your overall well-being.

14. Utilize positive affirmations and/or meditations on a daily basis.

15. Congratulate yourself as often as possible.

Job Satisfaction

2008-05-26T08:24:00.000-07:00

Be Positive-Be Productive

Job satisfaction is a major component of emotional well-being. Increased job satisfaction also promotes greater productivity. The key to experiencing greater job satisfaction is gaining control over how you approach your job.

Every job has challenges. Tips/tools for promoting a more positive work experience include:

1. When faced with a situation at work that you do not like, think about possible solutions as opposed to dwelling on perceived problem.

2. Maintain perspective and check your focus. Nobody likes every person or task. Concentrate on aspects of the job you like and the task(s) you are charged with completing.

3. Remember that everybody is going to have good days and bad days. They tend to equal themselves out.

4. Look for ways to improve your skills to promote continued professional growth. Stagnation breeds discontentment.

5. Look for ways to break up monotony (i.e.: Become crossed trained or volunteer for different tasks).

6. Avoid negative “self-talk”. The more you tell yourself that you do not like your job the more likely you are to validate your beliefs.

7. Another key aspect of experiencing job satisfaction is to clarify what motivates or inspires you. People tend to approach their work from three primary perspectives; job, career, and/or calling.

Job oriented people view their work primarily as a source of income. They work to finance other aspects of their lives or to accumulate wealth.

Career oriented people tend to focus on advancement. They look for ways to climb the corporate ladder or obtain the next highest title.

Some individuals view what they do as their calling. These people truly identify with and to a greater extent, enjoy what they do at work.
We are all motivated at some level by each of these three perspectives. But knowing which holds the most weight for you will help you focus your energies in a more fulfilling and productive direction.

Professional Toolbox Store

2008-04-19T14:02:00.000-07:00

PTC is so excited to be able to offer you relaxation music produced by Dr. Harry Henshaw...
Perfect for Relaxation, Hypnosis, Self Hypnosis, Sleep & Stress Relief.

You can enhance your relaxation, sleep, and overall wellbeing with this collection of music that is composed with binaural tones and relaxing natural sounds.

Lisa Friedman, LCSW (PTC) utilizes this same music as the background in hypnotherapy sessions at the office and wellness workshops.

Visit our website to purchase these music downloads at www.professionaltoolbox.org

Some People

2008-03-18T09:50:00.000-07:00

Some people come into our lives and quickly go.
Some people move our souls to dance.
They awaken us to understanding with the passing whisper of their wisdom.
Some people make the sky more beautiful to gaze upon.
They stay in our lives for awhile.
They leave footprints on our hearts.
And we are never, ever the same."

copywrited by Flavia Weedn

How to Create Change

2008-03-17T18:10:00.000-07:00

If you’ve ever made a New Year’s resolution and abandoned it a few weeks later, you know how reluctant human beings are to change. Our habits are something we can count on and they give us a routine, a sense of predictability. Attempting to break a bad habit or acquire a new one –even if it’s for the better – can make us feel very uncomfortable and lead us back to the familiar. Let’s see what we can do to help make positive changes lasting changes.

1. Be realistic. Break your goals into small, manageable steps.

2. Be persistent. Think long range about the time it will take to replace your new lifestyle with the one you’ve had for the past ten years. It’s going to take more than a few weeks and more than one effort or approach.

3. Be specific. Saying “I want to take better care of myself” is too vague to know what you’re going to do or how you’re going to do it. But by saying “I will take 20 minutes each day to walk or do yoga”, you’ll be able to gauge if you’re making progress.

4. Be forgiving. Know that in any change process, setbacks are bound to occur. If you break your diet or have a cigarette; this is not a failure. Progress is picking yourself up, dusting yourself off, and continuing your efforts.

5. Be proud. You don’t have to meet your total goal to celebrate. Incremental accomplishments will lead to your ultimate success – so go ahead and tell a friend, post your progress chart on the wall, or give your self a reward.

Review

2008-02-15T13:00:00.000-08:00

Hi there,
If you are new to visiting Professional Toolbox Consultants' blog....or you are a regular guest you may want to review our blog from the beginning.

We have tools and skills for a variety of topics such as: communication, relaxation, motivation to fitness, self esteem, love & money, parenting, and more. Just check out the Blog Archive section and click on 2007. Let us know what you think...your comments help us create this blog. Thank you for visiting our blog. PTC

Sharpening the Saw

2008-02-04T19:04:00.000-08:00

This is a powerful metaphor, found in Stephen R Covey's "Seven Habits of Highly Effective People"

Suppose you were to come upon someone in the woods working feverishly to saw down a tree.
"What are you doing?" you ask.
"Can't you see?" comes the impatient reply. "I'm sawing down this tree."
"You look exhausted!" you exclaim. "How long have you been at it?"
"Over five hours," he returns, "and I'm beat! This is hard work."
"Well why don't you take a break for a few minutes and sharpen that saw?" you inquire. "I'm sure it would go a lot faster."
"I don't have time to sharpen the saw," the man says emphatically. "I'm too busy sawing!"

Sharpening the saw is about renewing yourself - physically, mentally, spiritually and emotionally

Letting Go of Perfection

2008-02-04T18:56:00.001-08:00

"The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect, and beginning the work of becoming yourself." - Anna Quindlen

Thank you to Jaime for blogging and sharing this quote. I hope that the recent quotes on our site are helpful and full of hope.

Motivation

2008-02-02T07:31:00.000-08:00

Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.”

Winston Churchill

Happiness

2008-01-11T13:47:00.000-08:00

"Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony." Gandhi

Growth, Change & Emotional Health

2007-12-31T07:20:00.000-08:00

As an old year ends and a new year rolls in, this is a time when many people make New Year’s resolutions. Many people do not realize how important this age old tradition is in establishing and maintaining sound emotional well being.

One important trait that all healthy living things share in common is that they continue to grow. Another word for growth is change. When we fail to take the opportunity to grow in either our personal or professional lives we are susceptible to feeling all kinds of emotional distress least of which is state of boredom or stagnation.

So, use the New Year as a catalyst to identify an area of your life you would like to improve upon and put into action a plan to make growth promoting changes.

Here are some tips to help make your healthy intentions come to fruition:
**Make sure your goal is behavioral in nature.
**Be specific (how, when, where, how much, how often, etc.)
**Small change is better than no change
**Make sure that your goal is beneficial for you
**Remember that change is often difficult and uncomfortable.
**Have realistic expectations and be patient with yourself.
**Write your goal down.
**Share your goal with family and friends
**Monitor your progress.
**Strive for progress not perfection.

Have a safe New Years!!!!

Happy New Year

2007-12-21T14:14:00.000-08:00

WISHING ALL OF YOU PEACE, HEALTH, AND HOPE.

HAPPY NEW YEAR.

SINCERELY,
PROFESSIONAL TOOLBOX CONSULTANTS

Tools to Manage "Holiday Blues"

2007-11-22T07:38:00.000-08:00

Holiday time is traditionally perceived as a time of joy and festivity. For many however, the holidays bring about what is commonly referred to as the “Holiday Blues”. Holiday Blues can range from mild sadness and just feeling stressed to symptoms of severe anxiety and/or depression.
For many, holiday time can magnify difficulties that have been present all year long but become intensified due to the pressures of trying to promote the holiday spirit. Family/relationship issues, grief and loss, financial strain, and time constraints are common sources of increased emotional distress. Unrealistic expectations and difficulties setting healthy boundaries increase the potential of feeling overwhelmed during the holiday season.
Here are some tips to help you manage the most common triggers of holiday distress:
Unrealistic Expectations:
* Don’t expect perfection of yourself or others. Driving yourself to exhaustion will not create a happy holiday for you or your loved ones.
* Simplify family traditions that may be too much work or that are not conducive to an already hectic lifestyle.
* Prioritize invitations and do not feel compelled to attend every holiday event.

Family Issues:
* Set differences aside
* Accept family members and friends as they are, not who you wish them to be.
* Avoid using holiday gatherings as a time to resolve old and recent grievances.
* Be supportive of others who may be feeling negatively. Remember they may be experiencing the same holiday stress that you are.

Financial Strain:
* Before you go shopping, decide how much you can afford to spend on gifts or other holiday expenses.
* Stick to your budget.
* Remember that you can not truly buy happiness, love or acceptance.
* Explore ways to express holiday cheer that do not cost lots of money.
* Find ways to share expenses with others especially in regards to gift giving and event planning.

The most important thing to remember during this time of year is to be true and good to yourself. This means setting boundaries with others and making time to care for yourself. Focus on making this holiday season as joyful as possible. If you don’t feel merry for whatever reason, share your feelings with loved ones and let them know what you need from them.

Assertive Communication

2007-11-02T12:15:00.000-07:00

“I” vs. “U” Statements

As discussed in an older post, I vs. U statements are the cornerstone to communicating ASSERTIVELY.

Definition: Using the pronoun “I” to take responsibility and to promote cooperation and understanding when making statements to others. This is in contrast to using the pronoun “you” when addressing another person.

Benefits of Using “I” vs. “U”:
· Allows you to take 100% responsibility and ownership of ideas and feelings
· Promotes cooperation and understanding.
· Less threatening

Negatives associated with using “YOU” statements:
· Sounds accusatory
· Sounds judgmental
· Sounds threatening

Guidelines for formulating “I” statements are:

· Communicate Assertively
Being assertive means that you express your thoughts, feelings and
ideas in a direct, open, honest, and sincere manner.

· Begin Your Statements with “I”:
Get in the habit of taking responsibility and ownership for your
statements by consciously beginning your statements with the
pronoun “I”.

Check out the older post on I vs U for extra tips.

Assertive Communication

2007-10-21T18:13:00.000-07:00

There are many communication skills that assist all of us in communicating assertively. One of these skills is Limit Setting.

Limit setting is:
Defining the parameters of a job, relationship, or situation, so that each person knows what to expect from one another.

Benefits of LIMIT SETTING:
· Allows you to clarify expectations
· Helps to avoid misunderstandings
· Helps to prevent unnecessary conflicts

Guidelines for using LIMIT-SETTING:
1. Communicate assertively by letting others know what you will or will not do regarding a job, task, responsibility, or relationship

2. Clarify responsibilities, establish agreements, and set specific dates, times, and expectations for how a task is to be completed.

Check in for more tools and skills. PTC

Enhancing Communication (Part 2)

2007-10-16T07:26:00.000-07:00

What is your communication style?

1.Aggressive-Domineering, forceful, disrespects others

Do you speak up for your thoughts, feelings, and wishes, while trampling on the on others’ people’s needs in the process?
Do you humiliate others with sarcasm or put-downs?
Do you verbally attack people when you don’t get your way?
Do you move with an superiority and strength- to intimidate others?

2. Passive-Hesitant, insecure, withdrawn, disrespects self

Are you indirect with your thoughts, feelings, and desires?
Do you withhold your thoughts, feelings, and desires?
Do you hesitate to speak up? Using disclaimers when you do “This is probably not right, but……..
Do you put your needs down in favor of others’ needs?
Do you find it difficult to make requests?
Do you find it difficult to say “NO” to the requests of others?
Do you speak in soft, wavering voice…or feel at a loss for words?

3.Assertive- Direct, firm, honest, win-win, respects self and others

Do you stand up for your thoughts feelings and wishes, while respecting the others feelings in the process?
Do you deal with criticism directly without defensiveness or hostility?
Do you listen attentively, letting others know you have heard them?
Do you respond to people with a balance of listening and talking?
Are you open to compromise without giving up your own rights and dignity?
Do you make request and say “no” in a confident manner?

Figure out who you are in the here and now ______________?

Keep your eyes out for the next post...to enhance your life's toolbox.

Maintaining Exercise Motivation

2007-09-22T14:05:00.000-07:00

1. Start with realistic expectations.

2. Identify barriers to your motivation (Example: I am tired if I come home first)

3. Create a reasonable plan for each barrier. (Example: I bring my workout clothes with me to work and go straight to my karate class after work.)

4. Schedule your workouts in your calendar/day-timer.

5. Keep a journal.

6. Use positive affirmations for health and wellness.(Example: I feel healthy; I enjoy my karate class; I feel more alive when I exercise)

7. If time does not permit a full workout do half your workout that day.

8. Make it fun. Do exercise that you enjoy. Try group exercise like marshal arts, yoga, pilates. The group pushes you to go on.....

9. Get a buddy.

10. If you are working on your recovery from an eating disorder or health problem, please consult you doctor, nutritionist, and/or your therapist for a healthy exercise plan.

Love & Money

2007-09-16T13:39:00.000-07:00

Surveys indicate that up to 75 percent of married couples identify money as the primary cause of marital conflict. It is important to realize that lots of money does not guarantee relationship bliss nor does lack of wealth doom a couple to a lifetime of hostility.

Severe financial battles are more often a symptom of overall relationship problems as opposed to the cause of them. Money becomes the focal point of so many couples’ battles because relationship strife tends to stem from struggles for power and control. Money is the universal symbol of power in modern society.

There are three common, yet unhealthy behavior patterns that demonstrate the role of money as “power”. First is power spending. Power spenders spend money to prove that they can. The power spender often feels as if their partner is trying to control them and they spend in order to prove their autonomy. Revenge Spending is another unhealthy pattern. The revenge spender spends money to “get back at” their partner for a real or imagined betrayal. The third unhealthy tendency is for one member of a couple to assume all responsibility for financial issues within a family. This is often due to a person’s need to feel “all powerful” and to have greater control or dominance over their partner.

Tips for not letting money tear you and your partner apart include:
1. Understand and respect you and your partner’s individual views of money.
2. Comprehend how your fiscal behaviors impact your partner.
3. Find ways to share fiscal responsibilities and decision making.
4. Know your motives for spending and making certain financial decisions.
5. When faced with financial stressors look for ways to support each other and solve problems together.

Jeff Jabick, LMHC , PTC

Women- A Tool For Balancing Your Life

2007-09-07T18:51:00.000-07:00

Managing multiple tasks, continually balancing priorities and maintaining healthy relationships is a challenge for even the most capable person. Doing this requires skills, tools, and tricks that most people have not mastered or do not know exist. Here is a self-assessment tool to assist in creating better balance your life.

Write the number 24 (this is 24 hours a day) and start subtracting each part of your day. Start with the areas where you utilize the most hours. See the example:
-----------------------------------24-hour day

SLEEP--------------------------- 7
WORK--------------------------- 8
COMMUTE----------------------3
HYGIENE------------------------1
EATING/MEAL PREP----------2
FAMILY TIME-------------------3
--------------------------------- ____
------------------------------------ 0

0 time left for wellness activities/household chores/friends/other activities

This example validates what many women are currently feeling. After using this assessment tool, this woman identified commute time as one area that can be changed. After changing her work hours (non-rush hour), she increased her available hours. With this additional two hours, she incorporated exercise, light mediation, and household chores into her daily life.

Witness your specific juggling act. Is your health poor? Finding no “me time”? No energy for significant others? This self-assessment tool can help to identify where your time and energy is spent and what in your life is being neglected (exercise, eating well, food shopping, journaling, friendships, relationships, and any wellness activity).

Women's Workshop

2007-08-31T16:01:00.000-07:00

ONE MORE DAY TO REGISTER!!!!!!

For those of you that are interested in attending we have a few more seats left....call for discounts (954) 741-1099.

The Comprenhensive Version of The Women's Power Building Seminar is just in one week on Sepember 7, 2007 in Plantation, Florida.

We have free raffle gifts, free give-aways for all that attend, coffee, tea, water, snacks, information, education, and insight. Seating is limited...So register now. Call our office at (954)741-1099 to enroll. We accept checks, visa and master card.

For more information on the seminar topics and objectives check our website at: http://www.professionaltoolbox.org/.

Women's Power Building Workshop (The Comprehensive Approach)

Date: Friday, September 7, 2007

Time: 9:00am-2:30pm (8:30am- Check in )

11:30-12:30 Lunch Break (on your own)

Place: Holiday Inn Express

1701 N. University Dr., Plantation, FL

Cost: $125 per person (call for discounts)

Increase your personal power by learning tools to:

*Reduce your stress

*Identify & let go of emotional clutter

*Set limits with yourself and others

*Take care of yourself in healthy ways-

Presenters: Amanda Osher,LMHC & Lisa Friedman,LCSW

Hope to see you there. Amanda & Lisa

Self-Esteem

2007-08-22T21:10:00.000-07:00

Self-Esteem- An individual’s sense of his or her value or worth. The extent to which an individual appreciates, prizes, or likes himself or herself.

Having a healthy sense of self allows one to enjoy a greater quality of life. A healthy self-esteem allows a person to take measured risks, which allows them the opportunity to grow personally and professionally.

What is High Self- Esteem?
It is a very important aspect of your life. If you have a high level, you will be confident, happy and sure of yourself. You would be highly motivated and have the right attitude to succeed.

Self- esteem is therefore crucial to you and is a cornerstone of a positive attitude towards living.

Tips for improving self-esteem:

Use visualization to achieve your dreams and increase your self- esteem!
Develop and work at achieving your goals. If you do this, your confidence will increase and you will feel positive.
Be aware of and make a conscience effort to change negative/self sabotaging self-talk.
Identify and embrace your feelings; even those you do not like.
Be aware of how you compare yourself to others.
Clarify your values and make decisions that are in alignment with these values.
Identify your strengths.
Focus on your strength.
Make a point to learn something new everyday.
Make an effort to start your day on a positive note.
Make a list of accomplishments and put them in a file labeled successes.
Learn to reframe perceived failures and don’t be afraid to “fail” in the future.
Exercise regularly, eat a healthy diet and generally take good care of yourself.
Cultivate a social life and associate with people who help promote your overall well-being.
Utilize positive affirmations and/or meditations on a daily basis.
Practice gratitude.
Congratulate yourself as often as possible. PTC

Tools & Tips for Shiftworkers

2007-08-17T15:39:00.000-07:00

The primary reason that shiftwork can be detrimental to ones health is that by nature, human beings are geared towards functioning during daytime hours. Our biological functioning is regulated by an internal clock known as the circadian rhythm. This clock is tells the body when to sleep and when to wake up. Sunlight and darkness regulate this clock. Under normal conditions, darkness triggers the body to steadily go into “sleep mode”. As the body prepares for sleep blood pressure, heart rate, respiration, and temperature drop while digestion and normal cognitive functioning slows.

Common health hazards associated w/ shiftwork include:

Gastrointestinal problems- Shiftworkers tend to be eating at a time when digestion is slowing. Shiftworkers tend to have access to less healthy meals and rely on snacks that are high in fat content. Shiftworkers often rely heavily on coffee which increases risk of ulcers.

Cardiovascular problems – Altered eating patterns, disrupted sleep patterns can lead to cardiovascular disease by increasing stress and blood pressure.

Sleep and stress related disorders – The shiftworker attempts to sleep when the body is naturally programmed to wake up. This decreases sleep quality and quantity. During specific stages of sleep necessary physical and psychological repair takes place. Disrupted sleep patterns prevents healthy restoration to occur possibly leading to increased risk of physical and/or emotional breakdown.

Drug and alcohol abuse- Shiftworkers often become dependent on drugs and/or alcohol in an attempt to either help stay awake or help to get to sleep. Most commonly abused substances include caffeine, nicotine, and alcohol and over the counter sleep medications.

Family and social issues- Shiftworkers usually have less time to spend with family and friends. They are at work or trying to sleep when regular social activities are scheduled. Fatigue may also impact shiftworker’s ability to spend quality leisure time with others. Single parents also have to deal with difficulties finding appropriate child care.

Tips for minimizing the impact of Shiftwork include:
1. Get to sleep as soon as possible upon returning home after work
2. Avoid caffeine at least one hour prior to going to bed
3.Beware of using alcohol or other drugs as a means of falling asleep or enhancing energy
4. Learn relaxation techniques and utilize them as part of a set bedtime routine
5. In the room where you sleep eliminate as much light and noise as possible; keep the room as cool as possible.
6.Make sure you eat a healthy breakfast no matter what time you wake up. This meal should be high in protein.
7.Avoid eating fried food especially late at night.
8.Discuss with family and friends the impact shiftwork is having on both you and them.
9.Let family and friends know how they can be supportive.
10.Try to eat at least one meal together with family.
11. Schedule times that you can spend with family and friends.
12.Engage in some exercise routine at least 3 times per week.

PTC

Enhance Communication (Part 1)

2007-08-07T08:17:00.000-07:00

“I” vs. “YOU” Statements

Definition: Using the pronoun “I” to take responsibility and to promote cooperation and understanding when making statements to others. This is in contrast to using the pronoun “you” when addressing another person.

Benefits of Using “I” vs. “YOU”:
· Allows you to take 100% responsibility and ownership of ideas and feelings
· Promotes cooperation and understanding.
· Less threatening

Negatives associated with using “YOU” statements:
· Sounds accusatory
· Sounds judgmental
· Sounds threatening

Write down this sentence: I feel ____________ (place in your feeling word) when you __________________(behavior that you want to discuss), I would prefer you to ________________(the behavior you would prefer). Practice writing your thoughts down..to get used to using "I" statements.

Example: I feel sad and lonely when you forget to call for my birthday, I would prefer a phone call or card on or before my birthday.
Professional Toolbox Consultants

Women's Power Building Seminar (Discount Special)

2007-08-05T09:13:00.000-07:00

For those of you that are interested in attending The Comprenhensive Version of The Women's Power Building Seminar on Sepember 7, 2007 in Plantation, Florida ; we are having special discounts. Enroll in August and you have two specials to choose from: Buy one seat for $125 and bring someone free or $69 dollars for one person.

We have several free raffle gifts, free give-aways for all that attend, coffee, tea, water, snacks, and information, education, and insight. Seating is limited to 55...So register now. Call our office at (954)741-1099 to enroll. We accept checks, visa and master card. For more information on the seminar topics and objectives check our website at: www.professionaltoolbox.org.

Women's Power Building Workshop (The Comprehensive Approach)Friday, September 7, 2007
Time: 9:00am-2:30pm8:30am
Check in & Beverages 11:30-12:30
Lunch Break (on your own)
Place: Holiday Inn Express
1701 N. University Dr., Plantation, FL
Cost: $125 per person (call for discounts)

Increase your personal power by learning tools to:
*Reduce your stress
*Identify & let go of emotional clutter
*Set limits with yourself and others
*Take care of yourself in healthy ways

Presenters: Amanda Osher,LMHC & Lisa Friedman,LCSW

Bullying: Tips for Parents

2007-08-01T18:01:00.000-07:00

Bullying is defined as ongoing behaviors that are nasty, unpleasant, teasing, belittling or intimidating towards another person. Bullying behaviors can be physical, verbal, or in the form of excluding another from participating in certain activities. Vandalizing and/or taking of another person’s property is another common form bullying.
Warning signs that your child might be the victim of bullying:
• Sudden fear or reluctance to go to school
• Lost lunch money or possessions with hard to believe explanations
• Spending more time alone
• Falling grades
• Spending less time doing activities you know they used to enjoy
• Changes in sleeping or eating habits
• Physical complaints
• Looking or acting sad
• Torn clothing at the end of school day
• Unexplained cuts or bruises upon returning home from school

Tips for parents:
• Let your child know you suspect something is wrong
• Encourage your child to talk
• Validate your child’s decision to confide in you and assure them that they are not to blame
• Share your child’s complaints with school officials.
• Work with school officials in protecting your child from possible retaliation and establishing a plan for any future bullying incidents.
• Help your child identify effective coping behaviors

Jeffrey Jabick, LMHC, Professional Toolbox Consultant

Effective Communication

2007-07-27T10:33:00.000-07:00

Ways to Avoid Conflicts:
Do’s and Don’ts

Do…

Show that you are interested.
Make eye contact with the other person in a way they seem comfortable with.
Repeat what was said in your own words.
Ask if that was meant.
Remain patient.
If the other person is having a hard time communicating, encourage them by asking them to repeat with a phrase, like, “Help me, I am having a hard time understanding….”
Assume you have something to learn from everybody you come into contact with.

Don’t…
Do something else when someone is speaking to you.
Guess, make assumptions, or jump to conclusions.
Give advice, unless the person asks for it.
Interrupt
Criticize
Rehearse your answer mentally, while the other person is still talking.
Tune someone out, just because you think you are not going to agree with them. Professional Toolbox Consultants

Women's Workshops

2007-07-25T07:29:00.000-07:00

Hi, everyone. We are down to 6 weeks before the first Women's Power Building Workshop. We cannot wait to begin this innovative set of workshops. These are a compilation of workshops we have created and presented to small & large groups/companies in the past. We have put together these set of workshops to assist women in the South Florida community to receive these tools and skills to master life. Please let us know if there are additional ways to enhance the workshops. Check out our Professional Toolbox website (Women's seminar section) for times, topics, costs, place, and how to enroll. PTC

Tips for Personal Growth

2007-07-23T17:54:00.000-07:00

Engaging in behaviors and activities that promote growth or change in our personal or professional lives is the best way to enhance an overall sense of emotional well being. The following are some tips on how to make some healthy changes in your life:

* Identify an area of your life you would like to improve.
* Focus on what you can do, instead of what you can’t.
* Identify specific behaviors that will promote the changes you would like to make.
*Write down your goal on a piece of paper and look at it regularly.
*Tell others what you want to do in order to obtain help and support.
*Utilize positive affirmations to overcome growth inhibiting beliefs.
*Realize that change is often challenging or uncomfortable but always possible

Remember that progress in a new direction is more important than perfection.

Jeffrey Jabick, LMHC, Professional Toolbox Consultant

Breathing Technique

2007-07-17T14:30:00.000-07:00

Here's a great breathing technique to decrease stress and increase relaxation.
1. Inhale slowly through your nose as you count to 5 (silently in your head)
2. Hold your inhalation for the count of 3 (silently)
3. Exhale out your mouth for the count of 5
4. Silently in your head say “Relax now!"
5. Repeat 10 times
6. Enjoy

Stress Management Tips

2007-07-15T16:08:00.000-07:00

Common Stress Management Tips

1. Utilize a good emotional support system
2. Exercise regularly. Activities, which are aerobic in nature, are best for reducing stress.
3. Getting adequate sleep. It is recommended that the average person get between 6-9 hours of sleep per night.
4. Establish and maintain a healthy nutrition. Healthy Nutrition tips include; eat foods that are low in fat and high in fruits and vegetables; cut back on caffeine and sugar; drink plenty of water; avoid skipping meals whenever possible, especially breakfast.
5. Take time to relax and/or meditate
6. Utilize positive self-talk (example: affirmation: I am relaxed). Write one that fits you.
7. Journaling thoughts and feelings
8. Reward yourself
9. Practice assertiveness, especially when it comes to asking for help or saying “NO”
10. Look for reasons to laugh or smile

Newest Project

2007-07-15T09:40:00.000-07:00

Hi,

We at Professional Toolbox Consultants (PTC) are starting a new adventure. We are branching out to a new service. We have created Women's Power Building Seminars in Plantation, Florida. We are routinely asked to provide individuals & organizations with the tools and skills to decrease stress, learn to deal with emotional clutter in their life, learn assertiveness/communication skills, and tools to care for themselves. So after many years of practice as private practice psychotherapists and consultants in the community, we decided to start our newest endeavor by creating workshops solely for women. These workshops have a variety of topics, times, dates, and prices to assist women in building their toolbox of skills to master their personal and professional lives. To see specific information on the workshops, visit our website at http://www.professionaltoolbox.org/. Lisa Friedman, LCSW (PTC)